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A particular challenge for co-parenting infants after divorce relates to breastfeeding schedules.
Following a divorce, parents might become temporarily depressed, have less energy and be less responsive to their infant.
Young infants do not have much control over their emotions, which are influenced by their parents' feelings.
Your child will become attached to your new boyfriend or girlfriend, only to suffer devastation when your relationship unexpectedly ends.
For a child who is already dealing with the stress of divorce, this can be especially damaging.